7 STEPS TO GREAT RELATIONSHIPS

Hold your horses. Huh, I know the title of the post is "7 Steps To Great Relationships" but come on people, don't only think relationship= couples//special boyfriend//special girlfriend. It could also be relationship with your friends, family members, teachers etc etc. hahaha ok..whatever I'm just rumbling. HIT IT ALREADY @@

1. Respect People

 

Always talk to people with respect; speaking to them like you want to be spoken to. Be kind in your words and actions. Think before you speak, because once the words leave your mouth, they can't ever be taken back. Your words may be forgiven, but they will never be forgotten. When you speak harshly to someone, you put a small crack in that relationship. Too many small cracks and the relationship will crumble.

 

2. Be Loyal and Trustworthy

 

Be the kind of person that can always be counted on to do the right thing. Never do anything to betray that trust. Always be honest, and always temper your honesty with kindness. Let them know that they can always lean on you, and even their deepest secrets are safe. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have anything to build on.

 

"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" ~~ Walter Winchell

 

3. Put Others First – Be a Friend

 

I know it's not easy, but you need to put the needs of others first. By that very act you show how much you care, and how important that relationship is to you. When you enter a relationship with a heart that puts others first, you are blessed by the fruits that are grown from such an act. By showing a genuine interest in others, you show yourself a friend, and gain loyal, lifelong friends to yourself.

 

As Dale Carnegie said, "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

 

"The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one." ~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

4. Don't Try and Be Someone You're not

 

Always strive to be your best self, but never try and be someone you're not. Relationships built upon lies and distortions will never stand. Real friends are honest and upfront with each other. If you want to have a real friend, then be a real friend. Part of being a real friend is being yourself. If you want to impress someone, impress them with your kindness and friendship.

 

5. Don't Take People For Granted

 

I think this act probably causes more hurt, resentment, or weakening of friendships than any other. We go from enjoying someone's company, really appreciating all the things they do for us, and thinking about how great they are for the things they do. Then, let a little time go by, and we stop acknowledging the good things about them. We come to expect certain things that we considered special at one time. Don't do it, it's a relationship breaker. No one wants to be taken for granted.

 

6. Be Forgiving

 

What if the one being taken for granted is you? It hurts to feel like you're not appreciated. If we aren't vigilant in caring for our relationships, these things can easily happen. That's why it is important for us to look at others like Christ looks at us, with compassion and forgiveness.

 

Be sure to talk to the person taking you for granted. Don't let it build inside until the relationship is destroyed and irreparable. If they're a true friend they should apologize and be willing to change that.

 

Another trick to great relationships is good communications, and not holding grudges. Be forgiving as Christ is forgiving.

 

7. Be Positive and Encouraging

 

I love being around people who are positive and encouraging. It brings out the best in me and causes me to want to be positive and encourage to others. Can you think of a better emotional boost than to help put a smile on someone's face?

 

Dwelling on and being discouraged over problems will do nothing to make them better. We need to acknowledge the problem, tell that problem it's not going to define us, and then get to working finding a solution.

 

When someone you care about is down and hurting, you getting depressed with them will do nothing to help. What you need to do is show them compassion, be empathetic, and let them know you're there for them.

 

Then you need to lift them up. Help them to see some of the wonderful things about themselves and their life. Sometimes people just need to be reminded that they're special, and we believe in them even when they quit believing in themselves.

 

DISAPPOINTED SALESMAN

A disappointed salesman of Coca-Cola returned from his assignment to Saudi Arabia.

A friend asked,"Why weren't you successful with the Saudis?"

The salesman explained,"When I got posted I was very confident that I would make a good sales pitch. But I had a problem. I didn't know how to speak Arabic. So I planned to convey the message through three posters."

THE ART OF "BELANJA"

Belanja is a Malay word. In English it refers to as "treating someone to something" or maybe "buying stuff eg food, goodies etc for someone". In Malaysia, we use the word BELANJA quite often. I guess it's a kind of gesture?? or probably just a way to say "Yo man..how's it been? We're cool right? Wazzup" A common example of using the word BELANJA in a Malaysian daily life would be something like this:

IN A CAFE: - "M" IS SEEING "N" QUEUING TO PAY HIS LUNCH. WITH A CHEEKY SMILE "M" WALKS TO "N" AND SAID

"Hey man. Wazzup. When are you going to belanja me?? I've been waiting for like one sem now....haiya"

"hahahhaha...wait lah. I'm pokai (broke) right now. You lah belanja me"

 "Call me when you wanna belanja me, k? Enjoy your lunch dude ;)"

"OK man... NO PROBS. Any time also can :D"

 See? We as Malaysians use it either to start a conversation with someone or just a simply a way of saying hello when you see somebody you know. In a fun way of course. HOWEVER, although it seems really enjoyable to do it, there is a limit to the usage unfortunately. You just have to know when is it going to be ENOUGH. Get it? For example, we all love to do it (don't even deny it) so we tend to do it even though we don't really wanna do it. But sometimes, when it is used too frequently and I mean REALLY FREQUENTLY, it gets really really super-duper annoying. It's just like.....how to put it...emm, let me just give you the situation that I'm in right now.

             I have a friend (duh, of course..). Not going to mention whether it's a HE/SHE. Just for insurance policy and for my safety too. *hehhehe laughing nervously* so I'm just going to name this lovely person as "BURGER" *coz I'm hungry right now LOL* Ehemm, we seldom get to see each other. But when we do, this friend of mine always ask me to belanja him/her. Whenever wherever..be it day or night...be it weekends or weekdays...always belanja me, belanja me & belanja me. Until it gets to the point where I feel, OK I think I will belanja BURGER. Felt a sudden pity flush down on me. Haisshh As I am a man of my word, so I belanja BURGER.

             The next day I met BURGER again. And still, BURGER with his/her words "hehehe belanja me today?" And I was like..."WHOA! Didn't I just belanja you yesterday? So, you should belanja me baliklah" and BURGER was like "Alah, come on lah belanja me...*with a sad face* I don't have money right now. You different story...you got a lot of money meh. hehehhe" Thinking of it as a funny thing, I just laughed and we walked our separate ways.

            Until recently, we are grouped together to held an event. So, we have to meet with each other practically everyday. I just don't know why and it came to me that is it the only thing that BURGER knows to say?? BELANJA ME!!?? BELANJA ME!!?? ARRGGHHHHH....I can't take it anymore. It feels like you are talking with someone face to face and that other person is using a big giant hailer and yell the words BELANJA ME BELANJA ME!!!! AND it makes you feel like slapping and punching the other person's face a gazillion times like you can do with TALKING TOM!!!!!!!!! ARRGGHHH!!! *PAUSE- DOING IT WITH TALKING TOM RIGHT NOW*

           Luckily, I still have a pinch of patience left inside of me, so an act to make BURGER shut up, so I just have to and had to belanja BURGER for the second and third time and possibly the fourth too. Yet still, you know..BURGER with his/her BELANJA ME BELANJA ME. Urgghhh it just makes me don't want to ever ever meet BURGER again.

Dear audience, 

with my greatest and highest respect, I solemnly urge everyone to please do not misuse the word BELANJA or take an advantage towards someone using this pure and innocent word. It is such a disgrace. I think this word is a 2 way relationship word like love. If someone already belanja you, then it's a courtesy to belanja that person back without having to told you to do so. It's a word that can connect 2 people together but it is also a word that can just makes you want to slap somebody hard. THANK YOU.

 P/S: No hard feelings ok to anyone who read this. I think this habit has becoming too viral and not very good to society..hahaha peace ya'all.